ATTRACTIVENESS AND HOW TO GET IT Technorati Profile

What is attractiveness and how can I get it?

Attractiveness is nothing to do with beauty or being handsome. Beauty is a physical quality that can be seen from a distance (such as in a photo) and can also mean one thing to one person something different to another. Beauty is indeed "in the eye of the beholder". Attractiveness is the quality that can only be appreciated when in close proximity to someone. It is a quality that reaches out from that person and draws you to them. Attractiveness is totally unrelated to physical aspects of a person and that should be a relief to most of us! For this reason attractiveness can be cultivated if it is not already there and enhanced if it is. Attractiveness is related to the soul and spirit of a person. People talk about someone having "a spark" about them this means that they wanted to be around them. This is the kind of quality that you are looking for when you are dating. You also want to cultivate this in yourself.

How can I be more attractive?

There are certain qualities that almost all people find fundamentally attractive. One of these is Confidence. People are rarely attracted to shy or insecure people. The implication is that you might need to do all the work in a relationship if you were with one of these people. So how do I become more confident and out-going and less insecure? There is no easy answer and the blunt answer would be that you just need to get out there and start dating Christians. You are going to get some knocks along the way but you are also going to have some nice times and this will increase your confidence.

In your pursuit of becoming more of an attractive person take a look at your life. Do you have a life that someone will find interesting? Are the things that you are enthusiastic about going to make someone else find you more interesting? Does your life revolve around church or is there more to you than that? You may need to be doing some things just for fun. We all need earthing from both our jobs and the Church at times. Having other interests makes us more interesting people. So many Christians do little more than go from work to Church to home, with little in between.

Keep your mind active. Be interested in things that don't directly relate to your life but may be of interest to someone you might meet. Make sure you are aware of what is going on in the world at large. You don't have to be an expert but nobody like ignorance. If you begin to add the things we have mentioned here to your life, over time, you will become more of an attractive Christian. The things that motivate you and make up your life will begin to radiate out of you and people will be drawn to you.